Bi The Way

Are all bisexual men closet gay?

2008-08-16T00:17:50Z

A comment by DaviDC on a previous article has really lead to this post. DaviDC quite rightly observed that every bisexual man he knows seems to have settled with a man having dated a women. The implication is that all bisexual men are really closet gay. In this post I’m going to try to explain [...]

Bisexuality is still misunderstood

2008-08-13T16:25:51Z

You think people get it, then realise they really don’t understand bisexuality at all. Even my brother, who was the first person I came out to and explained things to properly still seemed to miss the point. Recently I’ve been dating a girl “V” and I explained to him that it felt a little strange to [...]

Anglican Church to debate homosexuality

2008-08-02T17:07:51Z

Well we are two weeks into the Lambeth conference and the bishops in attendance finally have the opportunity to debate the burning issue of the day, namely the Church’s stance on homosexuality. The Lambeth conference, held once every 10 years, gathers the bishops of the Anglican Communion around the world. However, notable in his absence [...]

I’m about to fulfil a bisexual stereotype

2008-08-02T13:33:40Z

Well it looks like I’m about to fulfil a bisexual stereotype. I’ve finally organised a second date with the girl I met last week, let’s call her “V” and although I’m probably going to enjoy her company tonight, I really don’t have much interest in taking her home and falling into bed with her. In [...]

Relationship Material

2008-07-21T08:58:14Z

To follow up on my previous post about “Enduring a Straight Streak“, to add to the confusion, I met someone last night - a girl - a woman in fact. We seemed to hit it off and I hope it will develop into something. But if it does, where does that leave me as a [...]

Enduring a straight streak

2008-07-15T19:57:53Z

Well its been a few weeks since I’ve had any major crushes or lusts after other guys, so I’m officially on a “straight streak”. I guess this contrasts nicely with the “Gay Days“, I’ve described previously. Its kind of weird going through a period like this where your attractions are almost exclusively heterosexual, it makes [...]

Lib Dem leader calls on schools to tackle homophobia

2008-07-11T20:24:58Z

In a speech on the 7th of July, Liberal Democrat leader Nick Clegg called on schools to recognise their “unique role” in tackling homophobia and called for better monitoring of homophobic incidents in schools. The fully story is here: http://www.pinknews.co.uk/news/articles/2005-8260.html What is probably unique about this speech is that its the first by a mainstream political [...]

I’m still closet with old people

2008-07-09T15:54:37Z

I guess I’m unusual in so much as I’m an out straight-leaning bisexual, there aren’t that many of us. Though by virtue of the internet, thankfully we can connect with others in the same boat and not feel quite so isolated. I wouldn’t like to say I’m proud of my sexuality, because that makes it [...]

How can I tell if my boyfriend is bisexual?

2008-06-27T21:36:45Z

So you suspect your boyfriend or husband is bisexual, but your not certain? You suspect he might like guys, but what are the signs and how can you tell? After all bisexual and bi-curious men don’t wear badges, we don’t have a dress code, and we are notoriously closeted. So how do you know if [...]

The Alternating Bisexual

2008-06-26T21:35:49Z

The alternating bisexual is a rare breed, or so it seems, as I’ve come across very few, certainly amongst men. For the uninitiated, the alternating bisexual is the person who has the capacity to fall in love with either men or women, but chooses only one partner at a time and is usually monogamous. One relationship [...]

How to talk to your bisexual boyfriend

2008-06-22T15:08:51Z

So you’ve just found out your boyfriend is bisexual. Now what? Well that really depends on the matter you discovered his bisexuality. If he came out to candidly he probably needs a hug and a bit of moral support. If you caught him in bed with another guy (or a girl if you’re coming at this [...]

How Gay are you feeling today?

2008-06-19T16:26:20Z

How gay are you feeling today? Odd question to ask I suppose, but as a bisexual guy, I often find myself having “gay days”. Periods when I am almost exclusively attracted to men, when my fantasies are almost exclusively homosexual and I seem to be completely ignoring women. Then bang! I spot a girl I [...]

Is Bisexuality Contagious

2008-06-18T23:07:51Z

I mentioned in a previous article that it seems like a lot more people are coming out as bisexual. And that’s a good thing, but I realise that there are a lot of people still out there who think, that people are “choosing” to be bisexual because they think it’s cool. And that bisexuality like [...]

Bisexual Apathy

2008-06-04T17:29:18Z

Have you noticed that in some circles, bisexual intolerance has passed into a new phase? Its called “bisexual apathy”, it manifests itself as mock indifference towards someone’s sexuality, bred by columnists who declare with a tone of disinterest: “but everyone is bisexual these days!” The undertone is of course that bisexuality isn’t a real sexual [...]

Away on a Hiking Holiday

2008-06-04T17:31:53Z

From 6 June until 17 June I’m away on a hiking holiday. I’m off to the Knoydart Peninsula in remote western Scotland where I hope to get away from the rat race for a few days, then its on to Fort William where I hope to spend a couple of days relaxing before climbing Ben [...]

Kids: It’s OK to be gay

2008-06-03T13:40:04Z

I’ve previously commented on how children are often denied access to information about homosexuality and bisexuality. This is particularly true in the US and to a lesser extend in the UK where homophobic bullying still blights our schools. Still I was informed that in Norway they have a more enlightened approach. Apparently, Skeiv Ungdom, a Norwegian [...]

The Homosexual Atheist “Agenda”

2008-06-05T17:32:46Z

I’m amazed as just how often the words “homosexual” and “atheist” are used in the same sentence and how frequently homosexuals and atheists are presented as being one of the same. And what’s more apparently share a political agenda to run rough-shod over Christendom and traditional family values. There are a plethora of socially-conservative organisations, such [...]

The Bisexual’s Guide to the Universe

2008-05-31T12:37:03Z

Announced as “quips, tips and lists for those who go both ways”, The Bisexual’s Guide to the Universe, is a fun, irreverent and witty take on bisexuality. Packed full of feel-good bi philosophy and clever put downs for the straight and gay nay-sayers, this is not a book that takes itself too seriously. Nor can [...]

13 breeds of bisexual

2008-06-25T22:13:33Z

Did you know there are 13 different types of bisexuality? No? Neither did I, but apparently there are 13 ways to pigeon-hole us. According to J.R. Little bisexuals can be categorised in terms of their sexual desires and experiences and include: Alternating Bisexuals - one relationship at a time, the first might be exclusively straight, the next [...]

Bi Invisibility

2008-05-22T23:02:53Z

Do you know any other men who are bisexual? Chances are you don’t. But why not? A US survey in the 1990’s put the incidence of male bisexuality at 1.8%. That’s almost 1 in 50 and most of us know more than 50 people. So how come bisexuals are so invisible? Well to kick off with there’s the [...]

The children might see

2008-05-19T22:14:16Z

Homophobia seems to frequently take the guise of child protection, which is irritating as it perpetuates the myth that homosexuals and bisexuals are somehow not child friendly. And this belief was illustrated wonderfully today by one of my friends who over lunch confidently declared that he didn’t mind gays and lesbians but thought that “they [...]